Focus. Gravity. Rhythm.

I’ve been thinking a lot about satisfaction, contentment and options.  We tend to find things we don’t like about our situation (ie job, house/apt, spouse, money, etc) if we have other options – or think we do.  On one hand, we can make a commitment via vows or contracts that self-limit our options.  Once we do that there are no other options (unless we want to break a vow or contract – which would make us a liar or contract breaker or adulterer, pick your title).  With divorce not being an option in my case (vow, self-limiting choice) the best thing I can do is find all the good things about Janna b/c finding all the bad would just make me miserable and ironically a poorer husband.  Why dwell on the negative if I have no other options?  Again…by choice…my marriage is great thank you very much.  On the other hand, if we are limited by outside circumstances and have no options (we cannot afford a better house, we can’t get a higher paying job due to lack of education, etc) the same should apply.  We should look for the good in our situation b/c well…we have no other options.  If you have to share a house with your parents or friends for a while b/c you lost a job or the economy went south and it’s just better to split rent/mortgage with another family or friends then that’s the way it is.  You’ll actually probably find some good things about the situation…and well…why not?  You have no other options.  The tension comes when we find ourselves in a less than optimal place but we DO have options (we CAN afford a better house, we COULD get a better job, etc…).  So do we grumble or do we make a choice and go for the better one?  Or do we stay content and stay where we are?  Have you ever found yourself in a place with no options so you made the best of it?  Have you ever been discontent but were afraid to act on options you really had?  Have you ever had mirage options (ones that you saw but weren’t real?)  That’s called delusional by the way.  I think America has a delusional complex right now.

Kent